The Most Respectable Sin In The Christian Community

by | Aug 28, 2019

What do you think is the most respectable sin in the Christian Community?

But before we get to that… can I just remind you of what you intuitively know, but often forget?

Your work is important but it isn’t who you are.

“You’re not having a heart attack. It’s stress.” A doctor said this to me at least once every decade of my life starting in my twenties. Lying there in the hospital after multiple tests I would promise to go slower, take more time off, reshuffle my workload and create more margin. And I always followed through…for awhile.

I loved my work. I was proud of being a hard worker and it felt especially good when others noticed and affirmed my high capacity to get things done. My heroes were successful leaders who got up extra early each day to employ effective, efficient strategies to reach amazing goals.

But, killing it at work was literally killing me. 

“Workaholism is probably the most respectable sin in the Christian community… especially among pastors.”    David Murray

I thought the trick was just better time management, smarter delegation, and even more prayer. So, I beefed up my focus on each of those.

But, my problem was something else entirely.

I was addicted to success and the adrenaline it produces. At the time, I would have told you I kept so much on my plate because that’s what expanding the Kingdom and reaching people for Christ required. Of course, those things are vital but the greatest work I needed to do was internal, not external. What I really needed to grasp was something I was certain I already had a handle on —my true identity.

You Might Be A Workaholic If….

  • You don’t believe you’re addicted to work, you’re just a hard worker and proud of it
  • You find it hard to stay emotionally or mentally present with your family and friends
  • You feel “happiest” in high-pressure challenges or with high-powered, get it done people
  • You find “average” people to be boring or uninteresting
  • You need others to appreciate how hard you work
  • You are afraid people will think you’re slacking if they see you resting or taking time off
  • You feel uneasy, anxious, not “yourself” if you’re not busy -checking emails, having meetings, texting, making phone calls, keeping things moving, etc.
  • You think people who take time off are slacking
  • You’re afraid of losing _____________ if you don’t keep working
  • You work and live as if you’re limitless
  • You think it won’t get done if you don’t do it or that it’s all up to you
  • You value your bottom line more than a balanced life
  • You’re still at work in your head when you take time off
  • You have a hard time saying “no” to new opportunities, networking, overtime, your boss
  • You overvalue others approval of your achievements
  • You take stimulants to get up or drink alcohol to come down
  • You ignore negative physical symptoms like stomach issues, chest pains, headaches, weight loss/ gain
  • Your relationships at work are often strained because of your impatience, disappointment, perfectionism, anger, rage, criticism, drivenness, overtime requirements, email rants, off-hour texts, and calls, etc.
  • Your relationships at home are often strained because you miss, forget or arrive late for birthdays, anniversaries, date nights, special events or because you can’t turn work off or because you’re always tired, disconnected or unresponsive
  • You really believe your family and friends understand why you need to work so much
  • You wouldn’t know yourself without your work or job title
  • You don’t have time for time off or you take work with you when you go away

There are a ton of reasons that drive us to overwork. Here are a few: 

  • We’re subconsciously trying to prove someone else or a group of people was wrong about us
  • We’re subconsciously trying to prove someone else or a group of people was right about us
  • We have this notion concerning the mystery called “our potential” and we can’t seem to stop working until we finally feel we have reached it ( and we chase this illusion for our lifetime)
  • We’re working for a big, audacious, life-altering cause and we believe that everything rises and falls on us; our performance, our leadership, our vision, our passion, our charisma, our fundraising, etc.
  • We’ve lost or never fully known how we are infinitely more than our achievements and performances- that our highest, unshakable value is actually deep, at the soul level. And so we attach ourselves to all the dramas and duties of our tasks. We become (in our minds) what we do and, often, with tragic consequences, we forfeit who we are.

Your work is important but it isn’t who you are.

For far too long, I allowed how much I worked and what outcomes it achieved or didn’t achieve to define who I was.  I worked FOR approval and achievement. But not anymore.  All the work that we do comes and goes.  It’s always variable.  It is a constantly changing seascape.

Just about every day, I spend some time in solitude, dialing myself into the constant… the one thing about me and my life and work that never changes… my True Identity in God.

This is the place I work FROM… where I’m already approved and already have a meaningful purpose for my life. I find when I’m genuinely in this space, I rarely feel the need to prove anything more to myself or others.

-How many boxes in the “workaholic” section above did you check? 

-Who is it you’re trying to prove right or prove wrong?

-Whose approval are you subconsciously trying to win by how hard you work, the goals you set or schedule you to keep?

– What are you worth without your work?

Other FREE Resources to help you on this topic:

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Here is a link to a podcast we did on “Healthy Ambition.” Have a listen. http://wp.me/p5JmOl-SV

Here is a link to a blog post we did on 27 Quotes On Healthy Ambition.  Have a look. http://wp.me/p5JmOl-SJ

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