I love dads! Why?
- I wouldn’t be here unless there was a dad
- I also love them because of the dad I had
- I also love them because I’m one
- I also love them because of the dad I’ve seen my sons grow into
- I also love them because of many of my friends over the years, who have been terrific dads themselves.
But I also know that the world has seen its share of bad dads.
Heck, I’ve been a bad dad. I failed my sons on several major occasions in their lives. I hate the fact, that I’ve been responsible for massively letting them down. They’ve poured out enormous amounts of compassion on me in recent years. Wow. It has marked my life for good.
I’ve also been a good dad… according to my sons. I’ve sought to prioritize them and pour into them for several decades. I’ve poured out large amounts of compassion on them. I think its marked their lives for good.
Almost all of the dads I’ve known over my lifetime have tried REALLY HARD to be a great dad. The intent has been there and the behavior has often been there. But it’s always a work in progress… right? We’re always a work in progress.
But most dads I know, are bringing the best they have,
to all of their fathering endeavors.
So what happens when a dad in your life, falters in what they say, believe, or do?
Forgive. One of the most difficult, yet fundamental ‘givens’ in life, is that people are not always loving or loyal. It just happens. Even in families. The big-league challenge of life is forgiving others in their imperfection… and forgiving ourselves in our own imperfection. God shows us the way.
Encourage. Most dads (like most moms) don’t get much encouragement for all their hearts and efforts. They’re most aware of all the things they’ve done wrong. When one’s child or one’s spouse, can specifically articulate the blessing that the dad has been to them, it goes a LONG way!
There’s an old classic adage that says:
“what gets rewarded is what gets repeated.”
That certainly applies to dad world.
What makes forgiveness and encouragement best happen? Compassion.
Luke 15:20 “But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him.”
This coming Father’s Day weekend, Edge Church, in Cape Town, South Africa, is having me speak. They are a very impactful church in that part of the world. They know all about the good I’ve done as a dad, as well as the bad I’ve done as a dad. So, I guess they wanted an imperfect Father to speak this weekend.
So, if you have further interest in the topic of what it means to be a compassionate father, mother, or child of either, then here is a link to the video message I produced for them.
May we all receive and give new levels of compassion, that God gives us, to all those in our lives.
Happy Father’s Day to all those who are in the same dad club as me.